Visitation


detail of textile, pigment on wool flannel
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When my brother, the fabulous captain in the fleet of Southwest airline pilots

Comes to visit

He knows to prepare.

He has to do stuff.

He’s done it all his life;

The thing is.. he knows how to fix pretty much everything

Which really makes it impossible for him to just kick back

BECAUSE THERE ARE JUST SO MANY DARN THINGS TO FIX!

He cruised through my list in short order

And one of the items was to take a photo of my fabulous new BRUNO mechanical arm

Which lifts my wheelchair into and out of the car.

My brother-in-law wanted to see it in action.

So I stood there with the controls

And the chair attached just so.

Because it was a weird enough situation

Inviting a family member into the strange world of disability I live in

And because my brother and I just naturally make things fun,

I decided to ham it up and behave like I was at a car show

And introducing this new and wonderful model everyone should have.

My brother says: “See here..even a WOMAN can do this!

Even a WOMAN WITH MS!”

And we both collapsed into down deep gut laughter.

It was a moment I’ll always remember

Because of the ease with which we moved from awkwardness

Into silliness

And a cherished memory.

It really isn’t just mechanical things he fixes.

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2 Responses to “Visitation”

  1. Elisa on April 1st, 2011

    Very lovely and touching!!!

  2. Laura Hegfield on April 2nd, 2011

    Those moments of relaxed laughter at the absurdities of our lives are incredibly healing. Humility and humor seem to go hand in hand…I’m guessing that spending time with you offered some growth and healing for your brother and brother in law too Cathy!

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