Dependance, Independence, Interdependance


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Youth and health have this in common: the incessant rise and push outwards toward dreams and goals and future.

The tether is pulled taut in a muscular reach anchored securely in a self.

As a baby, we need… food, comfort, shelter, clothing, safety, love.

Slowly, we etch out a life for ourselves and cut the ties.

We swim out into our very own ocean; heedless of warnings about rip tides and monsters in the deep.

To this day I THRILL when I see a yellow school bus and realize I do not have to get on the damn thing because I AM AN ADULT! YEAH!

It is a heady experience to follow the sometimes confined experience of childhood with the giddy power of making one’s own decisions. Making a life.

Then- sooner or later we begin to need once again.

The sheen of an adventurous life spent oblivious to an end

Begins to take on a more opaque patina; colors and textures never imagined.

Joints get rickety and eyesight diminished.

The tide is going out now.

When I was growing up I used to love tide pools; those pockets in the rocks left holding an entire colony of creatures after the giant wave and out=going tide retreated.

Each of those creatures in in relationship to one another.. they have to be.. they are there together without the salve of an entire ocean to hide in, heal in, mask weakness, vulnerability and need in.

Interestingly, llness seems to reveal many roads toward wholeness.

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One Response to “Dependance, Independence, Interdependance”

  1. laura Hegfield on December 3rd, 2012

    “Each of those creatures in in relationship to one another.. they have to be.. they are there together without the salve of an entire ocean to hide in, heal in, mask weakness, vulnerability and need in.”

    I made it through the summer needing less assistance… and winter is on her way, and my tide is going out again… not as much as this time last year, but further out than even a month ago.

    It is hard to need help again, after experiencing independence, after needing so MUCH help, after not needing much at all… or so I thought… but I always did… we all always have… we are like the creatures of the sea, creatures of the earth… interdependent and this is good, it really is. MS is not a blessing, but the blessings that are witnessed, gathered, felt because it is part of our lives… are an amazing gift… this vulnerability, a gift that allows us to open our hearts in compassion and lovingkindness in ways we may not have had our live been different.

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