Love Letter



Surely none of us is separated by anything other than our belief that we are.

This I know for sure.

It has been a long row to hoe but here I am..Here we are…

This is a note to myself/us/you/me/we…



My dearest Cathy,

If time were irrelevant what might I wish you had known the moment you were delivered the label:

1. This is a gift carved out just for you. It walked through your door and it is your choice how to meet your visitor. For she is just that- a guest. Beat the shit out of her because she TAKES and TAKES? Spend all your precious time crafting a nest to coddle and sing songs to her? Numb your ears to her attempts to get attention? Feed her incessant need for the red of your blood to augment her less-than-lively flow? I urge you, dear Cathy, to find the messages she came to deliver. Be a partner but never, ever let her lead.

2. Allow the tidal essence of friendships to express themselves. Practice staying in “What IS” instead of wondering why something is not. Stay in Love and take a pass on judgement.

3. Asking for help and accepting it will be the most challenging medicine after all is said and done. Remember what it feels like to give; an opportunity, Grace, a prayer, effortless. Maybe..just maybe this is how it feels to give to you.

4. Live closely with an animal. Preferably one you rescue. Much of your experience of illness cannot be translated into human terms. An animal will “get you” and your bond will steady your heart and spirit when God is nowhere to be found.

5. You are going to be turned inside out. Likely many times over. Remember how much you love the backside of a fine textile? How much more intriguing the imperfections appear? This is you; new, becoming, Wabi-Sabi, magic, intact but in a different way.

6. Become fluent in the language of letting go.
The space revealed is infused with a gleaming, wise innocence you may wish to fill…or not.

7. Your purpose may be unknown to you at times. This can be excruciatingly frustrating. Just EXISTING IS ENOUGH. Don’t waste time thinking about this too much.

8. Perhaps your most important challenge will be to learn how to hold the opposites with grace; My spirit is strong/my body is weak, The world outside my door is challenging/ There are so many gifts available if I do what it takes to connect, I hate the pain and weakness/I am blessed with the resilience, courage, perseverance that allow me to become the woman I am.

9. Your values will keep re-arranging themselves. It helps to make a list now and then to find out what you actually value and where each falls in your list.

10. Find your precious self endlessly fascinating. Then give up the story entirely!




7 Responses to “Love Letter”

  1. Pam on May 22nd, 2016


  2. Keek on May 22nd, 2016

    Brilliant !

  3. gerry harty on May 23rd, 2016

    Bravo!!!You keep on outdoing yourself girlfriend!!!xoxo

  4. Adele on May 23rd, 2016

    Brave and Beautiful

  5. Debra Moody on May 23rd, 2016

    YOU. Dear, sweet you. You who never ceases to amaze me.

    And the seasons they go round and round
    And the painted ponies go up and down
    We’re captive on the carousel of time
    We can’t return we can only look
    Behind from where we came
    And go round and round and round
    In the circle game

  6. Jenny on May 26th, 2016

    I really love “Stay in Love and take a pass on judgement.” – that is very lightening and letting the clever mind go and heart smile . And No. 10 especially the last phrase. Like child throwing off a coat and running!

  7. Maureen on June 5th, 2016

    Again. You have such wisdom and grace.

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