Good Morning Practice

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I have to fight invisibility in my chair or I risk depression.

Intuitively, I have made use of various tools to ensure a bridge between my reality and that of ambulatory folks.

Here are some of my most successful bridge builders:

1.- RED LIPSTICK- Statement making lip color demands I rise up to meet the audaciousness of the hue. That means that even if I don’t FEEL like I’m psychically robust enough to not let the color ‘wear me’

In order to avoid self-consciousness I must move into the color which raises my vibe hand helps me connect.

2.- EMMA Need I say anything? FullSizeRender

3. DRESSING WELL I wear my trademark hat but also take time to present myself to the world to radiate the self-respect I have. I find people are hungry to assist other humans in need and I can help by making myself as approachable as possible.

4.- SMILE or at least don’t frown I realize a smiling wheelchair person is somewhat of an enigma. Sometimes it means fake it to make it and occasionally smiling is outside my reach altogether then I go home and pull the covers over my head awhile which seems to work well.

5.- SAY “GOOD MORNING” with eye contact and mean it Sometimes the world feels like a cesspool and we just don’t want to get our feet wet. This is exactly when people pull their smelly acrylic brocade drapery across and around themselves as they walk down the street; basking in the false obscurity of heavily veiled marching to work or wherever. “Don’t look at me!” their body language says. “Life is too hard and I am too tired and sad.”

But I look. My eyes grab theirs and don’t let go and as they startle from just that I say: “Good Morning”…medium soft but loud enough to leave a scent after I’ve rolled on.

Some people do a quick take and return my greeting but I can tell they don’t really get it until maybe 20 steps on. Often a flush comes to a face with eyes widening in surprise.

The best is when a tiny or gleaming return is bestowed on me and the bridge is made and I use it to add to my daily foundation as I roll around just being….

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7 Responses to “Good Morning Practice”

  1. Karen on October 4th, 2016

    You are a wise and generous woman. The wisdom comes but it is the generosity that has me in awe. Life lessons. Thank you again.

  2. Ellen Fox on October 4th, 2016

    Yes, i have to feel robust to wear my various red lipsticks. Haven’t been up to it lately but I know what you mean. You are bringing light to the world. And you have such a spectacular assistant.

    Ellen

  3. Jennifer on October 4th, 2016

    I heard through the grapevine that you looked GORGEOUS at a recent brunch with an older couple 🙂
    I was not surprised. At all.

  4. Maureen on October 4th, 2016

    Just enough energy to send you a ?? And hug for this one.

  5. Maureen on October 4th, 2016

    Just enough energy to send you a ?? And hug for this one.

  6. Dominique Mazeaud on October 5th, 2016

    Delete this. Delete that. All this horrible politic stuff that makes me ashamed of being an American (as ‘newbie American’ as I am, I am one… and a grateful one at that.) Then I come to your latest offering, and I feel so so grateful.
    Have a wonderful day,
    dominique an,

  7. Alexandra Eldridge on October 5th, 2016

    Radiant you!!

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