Nope…and Yes

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Aging is really shitty.

And not.

The other day I had a memory snafu the likes of which scared me to death.

This morning I ran into a female friend who blasted me with her opinion that all the sexual abuse victims voicing revelations hidden in pressure cookers for eons were, in her reality, just out for attention and money.

My tolerance level is at its lowest point.



I cut and ran from my friend.

I did.

Never did that before.

I used to have more Grace and room;

Space for differing opinions, values and humanness I might find prickly.

Aging and illness has given me a great gift of boundaries.

My physical body immediately registers energetic DANGER and unceremoniously steers me clear.

With the acute registration of “NO!”

Comes an equally insistent knowing of when and with whom to exhibit a hearty “YES!”

Yes to space and beauty and undefended connections.

Yes to nature and prayer and Emma and soul-polishing books and film.

Yes to eating well and rituals that keep me comforted and warm.

Yes to giving back to and investing in those who continue to support my well-being.

Yes to learning cool stuff and musing about big questions.

Yes to leading the kind of discriminating life that only comes with age and illness.

It is only by saying a definitive and hearty “NO!”

That I can even begin to know what and who to say a true “YES!” to.


8 Responses to “Nope…and Yes”

  1. Cyndy Tanner on November 28th, 2017

    Beautiful post.

  2. CaroleZoom on November 28th, 2017

    Well said!

  3. Irene on November 28th, 2017

    When I worked, I had to put up with too much negativity: complainers, naysayers, time wasters, etc. No more. Since I retired two years ago, I try to be with happy people in positive situations…makes life so much easier and I feel so much better away from negative vibes.

  4. Maureen Shaughnessy on November 28th, 2017

    Could be a creed for anyone, but coming from you it is especially profound. What a beautifully written piece. <3

  5. Pam on November 28th, 2017

    Yes to CoNtRaSt!

  6. Dominique Mazeaud on November 29th, 2017

    You are a teacher in what I am trying to learn. Thank you wholeheartedly,

  7. Becky Patterson on November 29th, 2017

    I m so glad you used the word GIFT. IM TAKING A POETRY WORKSHOP FROM POET FRIEND NAOMI NYE in a few days on the subject of GIFTS. I haven’t read the book I ordered or been thinking about what to write. As usual you turn loss and discomfort as a gift. I’m taking the cue from you and looking with newly scaled eyes on what ” gift” really means. Love, Becky

  8. rose singarella on December 6th, 2017


    I think of you often , beaming you waterfalls of love, admiration and appreciation.
    the way you express yourself through writing is magical, profound, deeply moving and divine.

    Would love to connect, I friended you on facebook as well.

    You are a light that shines so brilliantly for us all. Rose

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