The Dignity of Doria


I keep thinking about Meghan Markle’s mom, Doria.

After all the hullabaloo has passed, her quiet dignity stays with me.

She did not tuck her blackness in

Nor did she shove it in our faces.

She carried herself with an easy and powerful dignity.

She sat there in the pew, very alone, witnessing her baby marry a prince.

Prince Charles took really good care of her; recognizing the challenge of negotiating such an event with out a plus-one. He kindly guided Doria with seeming affection as Camilla stood by.

Today, on my morning roll I negotiated the crowded streets of SantaFe filled with tourist disconnect to my presence on the streets.

I found some quiet shade to do my voyeur thing.

The default posture I see most these days is a marked hunched back and collapsed upper chest.

Seeing this so much makes me feel claustrophobic.

It is a habitual and lazy stance of no possibility; armoring ourselves against the assault of internalized wariness of the daily unknown.

Closing off our chest like this truncates breathing so less Life gets in.

Thinking about this and noticing the same in myself I changed my posture

By rolling my shoulders back and subtly lifting from the muscles in my upper chest while pulling my lower back in toward my stomach a bit.

This is the basic yoga “at rest” posture.

I immediately felt really different as I opened my chest to hope and connection and ease and dignity.

If I don’t put energy into maintaining this posture I can go down the rabbit hole pretty quick.

This seems to be an immediate antidote to “victimhood”

And an invitation to poised liveliness.

It helps me meet the world from a far less “me-centric” place.


5 Responses to “The Dignity of Doria”

  1. Dominique Mazeaud on May 28th, 2018

    Another beauty that makes my day. Blessings-

  2. Barbara McDaniel on May 28th, 2018

    So very evocative Cath! You had me at “habitual and lazy stance of no possibility.” We must RESIST! Love you! ????????

  3. Barbara on May 28th, 2018

    Those ??? are really hearts :o)

  4. Barbara on May 28th, 2018

    Those ???? are really hearts :o)

  5. Becky Patterson on May 29th, 2018

    POISED LIVLINESS. just to think like that. Write like that. Often when I feel ugly, less than, I simply stretch my neck to hold my head up high, suck in my stomach, shoulders back . Makes me feel like a princess walking into a ballroom even tho no ones looking. Always thinking of you. ????????

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