Good Question

detail of painting,m/m



Sometimes when I am asked: “ are you?”

I don’t really know.

My landscape is so varied and I skip between optimism and being a realist

Almost moment by moment.

Isolation becomes my safe place

Until I get so sick of myself I remember

Connection with vulnerability, humor, sass, curiosity and adventure

Light me up.

I have a friend who forged a relationship by bombarding me with questions.

It was shocking, endearing, sexy and courageous.

I love being asked things…almost anything actually.

I sense people shy from any intimate query around me

Perhaps afraid they’ll get more than they bargained for?

If you wanted to know me these are some questions I might welcome (always with the option of saying I can’t or don’t want to answer that right now!):

1. What was the best thing that happened to you today?

2. Did you see, hear, read something particularly great?

3. Were you lonely today at all?

4. What is it like for you to get ready in the morning?

5. What scares you?

6. What is the best thing about MS? The worst?

7. Do you miss your old life? Would you go back?

8. Who would you invite to a fantasy dinner party if you could have 6 people of your choosing, living or dead?

9. What do you think is your best, not so good quality?

10. Do you like your voice?

11. What do you think your hands say about you?

12. Who is a hero for you?

13. Is there anyone you have not forgiven but are thinking about it?

14. Are you friendly with your body?

15. What stories do you think people tell about you without really knowing you at all?


4 Responses to “Good Question”

  1. Joe on September 8th, 2018

    I hope I have a piece of #12.
    I answered, for me, and found it intellectually challenging.
    As no one but me would hear my responses I was as honest as I could be.
    Obviously not all questions were a direct fit but I took literary liscense and stretched them for me.
    Joe ??

  2. ellen fox on September 8th, 2018

    Incredible image. I’d love to see the whole painting. I have printed these quesitons out to use with my clients. Great questions!

  3. Becky Patterson on September 8th, 2018

    I feel exactly the same way. Want to
    Be a recluse until I’m sick of myself and need to
    Get off ranch. Then I have be watch that
    I don’t complain to people about my life, be cynical, and to tune in to others. I am spontaneous, breezy, remarking or cool unending passersby or total strangers. This makes me feel good. I like you say SASS, CRIOSITY. I’ll have mercy on a bug in my house, talk to a blossom, delight in bright colors on a cloudy dull day. Beauty and pleasing images are right under our nose. Yes Cathy. I love your questions. They are for all of us vulnerable fragile but strong people. I’ll figure out how to copy those questions and give thought to my own life or someone else’s. Love you. Becky

  4. Jann Tenenbaum on September 9th, 2018

    Well, i think this piece said the most about you I can imagine. Usually your pieces are set with a subtle discovery, folds of prose that form a picture so the reader can peak into your life. I loved this piece, it told me very directly about your blunt courage, consuming (every facet of life) exploration, how you are like me (creative curious), how you are not like me (MS physically restrained fearless hat wearing disciplined etc). It took down my defenses and invited me to leave my fearful editing at the door. I have always accepted that you are fully in the world, now it is clear that you are relentlessly courageous and I am a tepid witness behind the folds of prose. Of course, it may be my unconditional love for both of us Replying here.

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