It Took Me a Life to Learn


Things I have learned that are most important to me now:

1. Whenever someone’s behavior triggers me and anger or resentment arise.. It is usually about me and seldom about them. (I hate this one..)

2. The line I think I can not live beyond is likely not it.

3. A smile is my most powerful tool. Free, takes up no space, universally understood, magic-maker.

4. It is way more fun to love myself than run the ragged tapes of self-disappointment.

5. A good scarf, bracelet, earrings or lipstick can elevate my state of being in an instant and act as invisible “fist bump” to people letting them know I care about putting myself together well and entering life with confidence and curiosity. Less victim..more eager participant.

6. Suffering pokes holes in the armor of a heart. Those humans and animals having experienced tenderization in this way are often recognizable to the others immediately.

7. Prayer works only if truly, madly, deeply FELT.

8. Asking for and receiving help has been my hardest thing. Being capable, independent, self-sufficient and not needing is really not the holy grail our culture espouses. I am learning INTER-DEPENDENCE.

9. Really “seeing” another person is the greatest gift I can give. This means, even for just a moment, putting aside all of my own needs, wants, drama, complaint, worry to allow space for the other person to just EXIST in my company.

10. Beauty is available everywhere and always..often in the ugliest of situations. A good life means, to me, adjusting my attitude and awareness in order to access that Beauty.


5 Responses to “It Took Me a Life to Learn”

  1. Dominique Mazeaud on March 23rd, 2019

    O beautiful wise woman, this is fantastic. I blow to you.

  2. Pam on March 23rd, 2019


  3. Carole Zoom on March 23rd, 2019

    Wow these really are the lessons of life! ?

  4. Barbara on March 23rd, 2019

    Brave and beautiful. I wanna be on your INTER-DEPENDENCE list.

  5. Becky Paterson on March 24th, 2019

    Ok. I need to tattoo this on my forehead. Hearts tenderized like fork holes poked in it. Yes. I’m way too transparent with that. Just as soon tell the check out lady all my sufferings since day one. You are a genius in figuring out how to bravely live your life. You are a genius rare artist and Soul. Love, Becky

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